Thursday, September 10, 2015

LIVING NON-ATTACHMENT


LIVING NON-ATTACHMENT

attached: emotionally connected: having strong feelings of affection.

attachment: strong feelings of affection or loyalty for someone or something.

affection: an unnatural form of behavior that is meant to impress others.

non: absence of

Non-Attachment: [my definition] the absence of strong feelings: the absence of an unnatural form of behavior that is meant to impress others.

The past few days this subject of non-attachment has been weaving its way through my consciousness.  I am inspired to embrace it, to live it, but before a can accept it I must have a full understanding of what it means to me. For if I do not understand a thing how am I to commit to live it. Therefore, the definitions extracted from Webster’s Dictionary  preceding this dialogue.

For me, non-attachment means living free of strong feelings and emotions that go against my true nature for whatever reason. Living free of anxiety, free of loss, free of lack, free of fear. Non-attachment means living free of attachments to people, objects, outcomes and expectations.

As I move into this state of being I find it requires that I be more and more attentive and observant of my thoughts, words, actions and reactions. Being aware of that which goes against my true nature is required if I am to live a life of non-attachment.  

In order to live a way, be a way, you must be observant to know when you are living the way and when you are not. This does not mean to judge oneself when not living the way. Observance has no need for judgement. It  simply brings awareness into the consciousness and once there lets it go. What you do with it once it is in your consciousness is your choice.

Now that I have chosen non-attachment as a way of being I am aware of the many ways attachment was imprisoning me. I have become aware of attachment to physical things, to outcomes, to expectations, to people, to ideals and beliefs that had been accepted into my belief system that I do not even agree with.

Although I have just begun this journey of living non-attached it has already created a space of freedom within me. There is a new peace in parts of me where conflict used to reside. From this new peace it seems much easier to live and dance with life in a harmonious flow that feels more and more true to who I am.

May you find your harmonious flow. 
May you be peace and may you live love.



~*~ Regina Ann

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Monday, September 7, 2015

ANGER


Conversations With My Self
Anger

The Conversations With my Self series began when I was inspired to share some of the conversations that go on between myself and my [higher] Self. Sometimes these conversations are to help me work out my stuff, other times they help me understand another persons stuff.

Me: I am so angry!

Self: Why?

Me: This other person did this and said this and it was wrong and it makes me so angry that hey did and said those things.

Self: Why?

Me: Because they are wrong and it is wrong of them to say and do what they said and did. It’s just wrong!

Self: So why are you so angry?

Me: because it’s wrong but they don’t see it as wrong and there is no way that I can make them see that it’s wrong because they won’t listen.

Self: So, you’re angry because you cannot control how they think and how they perceive things.

Me: No, I don’t want to control them, I just want them to see that it was wrong.

Self: You want them to see things the way you see them.

Me: Yes

Self: Why?

Me: Because they are wrong

Self: But from their viewpoint you are wrong. Do you want them to be allowed to force you to see things the way they see them?

Me: No, but that’s what they are trying to do is convince me and everyone else that I am wrong and they are right, which they aren’t. They are wrong.

Self: If you don’t want them to be able to force you to accept their viewpoint then why do you believe it is acceptable for you to force them to see things your way?

Me: Because I’m right and they’re wrong

Self: There will always be moments in which you are right and they are wrong just as there will always be moments in which you are wrong and they are right. You should never have control over how another thinks and perceives, how they act and react. You should however have control over how you think, perceive, act and react. 

You are here to be you. You are not here to be anyone else. Therefore, you should only have control over you.

When you observe and determine that another is wrong to say a thing or do a thing the only control you should exercise is your response to it. You can choose anger and block out any blessings you may receive from the lessons embedded in the experience. You can choose anger and deny yourself the peace your soul longs for you to know. You can choose anger and feel disconnected from others, from your true self, from your source or…You can choose to observe and determine that their perception is not in alignment with yours and since you do not agree with their words and/or actions you choose not to receive them into you being. Because their belief is not your truth you can choose not to accept as your belief….And you can make all of these choices from a place of peace when you love yourself and respect yourself.

When you love and respect yourself there is no reason to be angry when others try to impress their beliefs on you because you are at peace with you and no longer require their acceptance or love.

You see dear child, it was never about anger at them for not seeing things your way, it was fear that you are not loved, accepted and respected enough to be valued for having your own beliefs and for seeing things your way. In other words, for being you. When you love, accept and respect yourself there is no fear of whether others will or not. There is only peace. And in that place of peace there is no need for anger regardless of their words or actions.

Me: All this time I thought I was angry at them when I was really angry at me. I was angry because I didn’t love, accept and respect myself enough to not allow their stuff to determine how I felt about me.

Self: So, love yourself, forgive yourself, and let it go. Stop living in the past. You cannot fully receive the blessings of the present while living in the past. Forgive yourself for letting them control you through your anger. Forgive yourself for giving your power away through your being angry. Forgive yourself completely. Accept that you are a miracle of the divine and live, now.



~*~ Regina Ann


Regina Ann is the founder of Integrative Wholistic Solutions and a Holistic Health & Wellness Practitioner offering Complimentary and Integrative Medicines, Healing Arts, and Lifestyle Coaching to assist you in achieving emotional, mental, physical, spiritual Well Being. Visit IntegrativeWholisticSolutions.com to learn more.

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WINTERS PEACE

WINTERS PEACE

There is a blissful peace to winter stillness
recalling each season
grateful for the changes 
each one brought

Springs rapid growth, innocence and newness
Summers flurry of activity and adventure
Fall took a deep breath, let its colors show, and let go
giving way to Winters Peace
quiet reflection ushering the purity of natures essence
and in that space, the bliss of
Winters Peace


~*~ Regina Ann

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Thursday, September 3, 2015

I DIED IN 2005


I DIED IN 2005

Early this morning 
I was reminded
I died in 2005
not for long
just long enough
to leave
to see
to ask
to come back

and here I am 
some 10 years later
wondering why the reminder
then I realize
every day I die
to the I that I am today
and tomorrow
I come back 
someone new
a new mantra springs forth
in the midst of this thought
“live each day as though
it is your first and your last”
…because it is you know

I died in 2005

~*~ Regina Ann


Regina Ann is the founder of Integrative Wholistic Solutions and a Holistic Health & Wellness Practitioner offering Complimentary and Integrative Medicines, Healing Arts, and Lifestyle Coaching to assist you in achieving emotional, mental, physical, spiritual Well Being. Visit IntegrativeWholisticSolutions.com to learn more.

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